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[Jamie]

Yeah, so some may remember that I posted a thread about this girl I was seeing, in which everyone in the thread concluded she had mental issues and that I should stay away from her. Some said I would end up getting back with her no matter what... they were right. After a week I was out drinking with some friends and she turned up, started talking to me when I was drunk, we ended up having sex and I told her that I would give her another chance.

Long Story

After I woke up I realised two things, I had a bad hangover, and she was in my bed. I tried to just tell her I was drunk and it was a mistake but she begged me for one last chance and that she'd do anything to change just so she can have me. I listed every thing she had to do to change and she started doing them. She wore normal clothes not slaggish ones, she cut down drinking (i never expected her to stop), she started eating more, she didn't cut herself for months. She stopped talking to any guy I asked her to, gave me all her passwords, etc (not that I every went on her facebook or anything), just so she could prove that she wouldnt do anything bad.


So things were pretty good, we had a month holiday and we saw each other a few times over that, we came back to university and started drinking. After a week I started feeling really down for no reason and really depressed (I now realise thats because of the amount we were drinking, which was daily). When drunk she told me her flatmate (whos a guy) had hit her so I went into his room and threatened him that if he ever touched her I'd smash his glasses into his face. I felt really bad the next day and got her to apologise as he only hit her when play fighting she told me when sober and he said it was ok.
I was feeling really ill on friday, so after some morning revision I slept through the afternoon, I kept waking up and seeing I had missed calls from her, calls from a friend and texts from a female friend, but I kept just falling back to sleep and not replying. After a few more hours sleep I saw she had text me saying "You ok?" so I could tell she was worried, so i told her to ring me, we spoke on the phone and she said she'd come over. She came over we talked, I explained I didnt feel very well, told her our friend had rung me, and that my female friend (whos a friend to us both) had text me. She asked how many times, I was like err four I think asking about exams and stuff (it was actually twice but because I kept waking up and falling sleep I couldnt remember).

She flips out and starts yelling "why is she always texting you, when shes my friend," claims that I fancy her and that somethings going on. Bare in mind our friend is also going out with one of my friends who I get on really well with. I explain that shes being and idiot. She then says... "is it because shes skinny compared to me?" This female friend lives aboard and just studies here, and when she came back to university she had lost some weight, not that she was fat in the first place. For those who didn't read me last thread, this girl I was with had an eating disorder. I told her not to be stupid and that I loved her, and shes like "ok lets forget it I'm just being paranoid." She then asks if we can drink that night, but we don't have to go out, So I'm like ok.

She goes to hers, gets ready, comes back, we go buy some vodka and coke. We start drinking and after a little while were both drunk and she asks if we can go to the bar because some of her friends from home are there. We go down, she introduces me to them, after chatting with them for a little she just gets up and leaves me without saying anything. I sit there thinking she must of just gone to the toilet, 20 minutes later after sitting with people I dont know I go to find her. I find her talking to this guy that I barely know, so I'm like "what the hell, you ditched me for another guy after how much shit you gave me about that girl texting me."

I told her im leaving, she follows, then collapses near my coridoor due to, too much alcohol. I carry her back to mine and she laid on my bed saying she was sorry and that she only loves me. She then comes to sit on my lap as I'm sitting on a chair at the time, she puts her hands in my hair then slams my head against the wall, in which because my hands are close to my chest i naturally push her with my forearm which hits her neck and she fell back and banged her head on a blank plug socket which broke. She gets up and says sorry, and tells me shes going home, I couldn't let her walk home along and being drunk I was more worried so I walked her back to hers.

We get back to hers and I tucked her into bed and put some food in the oven. At first she was fine. Then she starts talking about all this shit going on in her family and gets really upset about it all. Shes crying and shouting, I'm just telling her how luckey she is and everything. The food was cooked so I went and got it. I ate mine but she was just looking at hers. I asked her "why arent you eating yours" and she tells me she "cant." I asked why and she says because she thought she was fat and not as skinny as our female friend thats why I dont like her. I told her before the incident that if she went back to her old ways I couldnt be with her because I had exams coming up, and started getting really bad depression so I was strugling to deal with my own problems. So I move the chair over to her and told her I couldnt be with her anymore.

She flips out and says that she'd do anything for me, and tells me that she'd kill her neighbours for me because I mean so much to her. I tell her no. She grabbed my hands and put them round her throat and told me to kill her as life wasn't worth living unless I was with her. I tell her no, I get up and go to walk to the door and she slams me into a cupboard in which the handles break. She then pushes me into the door, grabs me and puts my hands round her throat again. Bare in mind I'm drunk and shes absolutely fucked...

After placing me right hand on her throat she shouts "kill me," then says if I dont kill her She'lll kill me, she puts her hands in my hair again and smashes my head against the wall again, inwhich i squeeze tightly with my right hand as its round her throat because Im having my head smashed into a wall, and I throw her back. I go to get out the door but she grabs me from behind and sticks her nails into my right eye and bites my shoulder/neck. I grabbed her while still facing forward with my left her, but around the neck again, slam her into the wall then throw her on the floor again. I get outside the room and im like really scared. Im holding her door shut and shes shouting and screaming for her to let her out. If you read the last thread you'd understand why I'd be scared of a girl (well just her).

After trying to contain her, I realise shes not giving up and I go to make a run for it, being drunk a trip, and as she gets out her room her housemate comes out and grabs her and yells "im calling the police on you" (talking to me). I shout, call them shes a crazy bitch, shes fucking mental. I get out the coridoor and run down the stairs, she chases me and I jump 8 stairs to get away but as I landed I twisted my ankle and fell on the floor. I get outside and she chases me security see us and im yelling for help but they ignore me at first. All her house mates come out thinking im really fucked up and mental, and campus watch take her, and I walk off to my friends.

I knew i'd get into trouble as she was yelling to campus watch "he tried to kill me," when thats not what happened. Apparently she went back into her room, cut her wrist and her flatmates had to call an ambulance. At hospital they called the police, I got arrested. Spent 10 hours in a cell, got released as I told them the truth and they told me to get out of the relationship with her.

I back to mine and she kept calling me using other peoples phones I finally answer and she tells me shes coming over. Someone lets her into my coridoor and she tries to patch things up and asks if I will go to the hopsital with her and she ran away when they tried to fix her wrist. She thens tells me she didnt take the morning after pill because we had sex before we went out stupid unprotected.
I agreed to go with her to make she took the morning after pill not because of her wrist but only as friends. She gets really nerous inside the hospital and says shes going a toilet. She comes back really drunk, all the staff at the hospital get really pissed off with us because shes drunk and she'd run away from them the day before.

It all gets sorted, she takes the pill. We had to get a cab back as she was to drunk to walk. I carried her to her room and went to leave and she says "Are you ready?" I say "ready for what?" she says "to do what we talked about," I asked "whats that?" She said "kill people." I told her i had to leave, when she said no I told her i'd call the police if she didnt let me go.


So yesterday I get an e-mail from the university telling me I need to go for a meeting sometime soon and not to try contact anyone in her coridoor or not to go there. Its kind of already to late for that because I've already been in contact with her but she contacted me. And they said if I did try to contact them I'd get kicked out of university. Now I've had to her a million times to stop ringing me because Im not suppose to contact her but she keeps ringing on other peoples phones and knocking at my door.

Pretty much the last 72 hours have been really fucked up. It looks like I will get kicked out of uni because her housemates hate me because I threatened that guy and because they think I'm metanl as they dont know she self-harms, if obsessed with serial killer, likes to fantasise about killing and rape, has an eating disorder.
So I'm just praying all I get is a warning, then Ill as to change rooms so she cant find me, if I get kicked out im going to have a hard time explaining it my parents... And I realise I've brung some of this upon myself, I don't believe I deserve to be kicked out of uni for it.

[Tree_]

Cool story bro.

[P-Man]

Bloody hell mate, are you writing the new script for East Enders?

I'd try and get her sectioned under the mental health act because she has some serious mental health issues going on.

[Personal]

There's too much sadism in that kind of relation, particularly OPs girlfriend.

[Jamie]

Cool story bro.

I aim to please with my life failures.

[Ineffable]

Cool story bro.

Cool tl;dr bro

Are you related to Captain Morgan in anyway?

EXDEE
So anyway, I took the liberty of reading your story.
I'll be frank. Your life really sucks and as I said in the other thread, you and your girlfriend have issues.

AWESOME CHRONICLE OF YOUR LIFE HOLMES

Edited by Ineffable, 18 May 2009 - 06:02 AM.

[Defiled]

Are you related to Captain Morgan in anyway?

[Master C]

I'd try and get her sectioned under the mental health act because she has some serious mental health issues going on.

Sounds like a plan.

[CORNELIOUS THE CONQUEROR]

Reminds me of when I used to rant about relationships!! drrrama.

now i have a meatloaf song stuck in my head. also goodluck/havefun

[juZz093]

dude she sounds like a complete loony
sound like a pretty crazy 3 days,
and here i thought me getting in a fight with 5 guys at my own party was crazy
she sound just.. just.. ffffffffuuuuuuuuck

hope things turn out well man

-Juzz

[richmeister]

HOLY SHIT

end the relationship man, that girl needs help, shes not only a danger to herself, but a danger to you.

If not, be an hero

[valgear]

After the bit where you two fought I was totally expecting a Bel-Air ending.

[Mantrousse]

I'm going to be pretty blunt.

You brought this on yourself, as you said.

You're - without making this a personal attack - a complete idiot for getting into this situation with her again.

Advice? Go to AA, get your life sorted out and cut all ties with her. Don't say you don't have a problem, you do: you're a drunken mess and you need help, like her.

[Jamie]

I'm going to be pretty blunt.

You brought this on yourself, as you said.

You're - without making this a personal attack - a complete idiot for getting into this situation with her again.

Advice? Go to AA, get your life sorted out and cut all ties with her. Don't say you don't have a problem, you do: you're a drunken mess and you need help, like her.

Edit: Typo

I'm a drunken mess, because I like to drink with friends? Before I was with her I'd drink 3 times a week MAX, and I've been months at a time with alcohol. My only problem is my depression, and im trying to get help.

I find out tomorrow what happens to me :/

[Weiman]

You know, I'd love to say 'damn that sucks for you' or at least feel some compassion, but I can't..you really brought this on yourself No offense intended. Wish you the best.

[Master C]

I'm a drunken mess, because I like to drink with friends? Before I was with her I'd drink 3 times a week MAX, and I've been months at a time with alcohol. My only problem is my depression, and im trying to get help.

I find out tomorrow what happens to me :/

You said it yourself, you were depressed because you were drinking too much. I dont know whether you have a drinking problem or not, but its at this stage that you should definately consider having a month or two alcohol free. Because even if you aint a alcoholic, it definately sounds like your going that way.

Edited by Master C, 18 May 2009 - 09:18 AM.

[Lisa!]

Where's the tl;dr bit at the end?

[PwnDaddy123]

Some mentally ill, drunk, and unhealthy chick runs faster than you?

Go hit the gym, bro.

[Jamie]

Some mentally ill, drunk, and unhealthy chick runs faster than you?

Go hit the gym, bro.

You missed the part where i fucked my ankle running? lol. I can actually run pretty fast.

Anyways, i think Im not even getting a warning, as she rung me to tell me she spoke to the person (I didnt know it was her ringing) and the master e-mailed me saying not to worry and that I just had to go for a interview.

So she must of made up something to make it ok