uh. define a relationship 'based on religion'?
It's not like
'so.. I heard you were a Catholic, LET'S Ffff... get together and wait until marriage before consumating our deep and meaningful relationship'.
I know some religions have organised marriages and some nutjobs won't budge, but in common everyday practice, it's not a big deal.
I'd take (the fundamentals of) Christianity over (raw) Humanism any day though. I've met so many girls with such fucked up ideas of what a relationship should be, because they let so many assholes (who didn't really know what they wanted other than the fact that they 'wanted') take advantage of them - and some of them still believe that approach is somehow more empowering.
This jaded view that humans will only ever be as good as their animal instincts, stripped of everything else, is only detrimental to progress. It is in striving for divinity, believing that we can be better, and *trying* to live it that we become as close as is humanly possible to something better.
You can shred the will, heart and mind of a man; but a man with faith in something more than humanistic 'want' and 'need' is a creature that will always have the ability to rebuild and regrow..
If you dismiss religion, fine - but the evolution, the science, the theories behind what forges our social evolution are very real; and religion has been a fundamental step in this process. A gap is growing where this once fit.
We *need* something in it's place.
There are the enlightened that know better, that can exist happily, peacefully and intelligently without any need for external guidance - but these are the minority. It's important to remember just how poorly educated and frankly stupid the masses are.
It's a shame we have to rediscover the hard way, just why the things we throw away as archaic were so important.
if you go out of your way to change your religion just to be with somebody, chances are there is something wrong
if you feel the need to change your beliefs, and by extension the way you act, chances are the relationship isnt going to work, no matter how many sacrifices you make
maybe saying "based on religion" is a bad choice of words, but if your girlfriend is so religious to the point that it affects how you interact, i can guarantee you will have problems in the future
my family are mostly religious, and most of them are Hindus, and i have seen first hand what religion can do to people's relationships
my uncle recently passed away from liver failure and kidney failure (he was an alcoholic). he would always go on about how god would help us through our troubles and all of that jazz, but it never did him any good
my aunt did everything the way she was supposed to, and she even tried to help him overcome his addiction, but he refused to be helped
she finally cracked and threw it all out the window. tradition says that the wife should not be able to follow the casket to the funeral home, but she did it anyway, and got a whole load of grief from his side of the family.
now they are blaming her because she "didnt act like a good wife was supposed to" and it has pretty much torn apart both sides of my family
also according to "tradition", her sons got the rights to the house, and she got NOTHING.
now she is a wreck, and both of her sons are shunned by my uncle's side of family, all for the excuse for religion
as for the part "humans are only as good as their natural instincts", it is very true
humans have always felt the need to dominate. if you look at the world now, its fairly safe to say that we ruin everything we touch
people have lost sight of what life is supposed to be, and commit themselves to living "the proper way"
and by this i mean go to school, graduate, get a degree, get a job, get married, retire, ect ect ect
if you look at it closely, you could say they are motivated by greed, which is a huge part of human nature
we are never happy with what we have, we will always want more, no matter what
i'm not saying the world is populated by greedy assholes, but just that people place far too much importance on following the rules