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[RideMyPwny]

Hey guys, I'm new to the PP forums and I just wanted to see your opinions on Religions and Relationships.

I know I could be googling this stuff but I wanna hear from what regular everyday people like me think.

Well I've been with a girl for 2 1/2 years now. Things are going great for us the only problem, I believe, is religion. Me, I am a Buddhist, 17 years old, and still just trying to figure myself and everything else out. She, is a Christian, 16 years old, and VERY VERY VERY religious. Anyways for a while now we have always just argued about religion and never exactly see eye to eye on things in terms of religion. I don't mind that neither I just try to keep an open mind about these things; however, she wants me to convert and have a complete Christian family. As I hinted before, I'm not exactly religious at all. Religion is probably prioritized fairly low in my life. So now the problem that exists is that I was planning on proposing to her when she graduates high school, which she will be 18 therefore I'm in the safe zone. But the only doubt is our religion. I honestly do not want this to be a reason why our relationship does not work because it is only 1 obstacle that I really want to just get past.

My situation is:
I'm trying to meet halfway and just have religion not be a major part of our lives
She wants HER religion to be a major part of our lives and family's life.

If anyone has advice or similar problems feel free to post here thnx

[Vepr]

Your 17 and shes 16. Theres still two more years until she graduates. And your young and kids always fight and things always happen. And your way too WAY TOO young to be discussing about having a family with her seriously. I mean jokingly yes...i even did that..but seriously no.

Personally i wouldn't make any commitments until you are SURE like 100% SURE you will get married to her. Like when you get engaged or something. But other than that...wait and see what happens. I wouldn't want to make any MAJOR commitments like changing your religion because of a girl, unless you are going to be with that girl for sure.

Thats me two cents. To wait. Btw this is coming from a guy who has no religion. I just have beliefs.

[TheBase]

Lol. Religion.

[Pwnstar]

Don't you watch the fucking Simpsons? Richard Gere says that Buddhism is about acceptance, you can respect other religions and hang out at church, have Christmas and shit.

[IrishSpuds]

I Love You and Buddha Too!

Pretty much sums it up, don't ya think?

It's funny. Almost every single religion, if not all, teach to be peaceful and to do unto others as you would have them do. Well, I would want to be accepted for who I am and to be allowed to believe what I want.

So, do you find irony in the fact that you get in arguments over religion, a topic that preaches acceptance and peace? (especially Christianity and Buddhism)

[TheBase]

Just how religious is she? She wouldn't date a godless, heathen Buddhist if she was one of those crazy evangelical types. Hey, you know what would be a great topic to discuss with your girlfriend? The trinity. Trust me, man. It will strengthen the relationship.

[RideMyPwny]

I'm not planning on converting or anything like that. And yeah Vepr i guess I'm kinda like you in a way. I was raised buddhist, but i just have beliefs i dont exactly consider myself a certain religion. i guess ur advice is good in a way. not exactly what i was looking for but i guess i cant exactly explain my whole relationship in a thread lol.

and uh pwnstar i think u REALLY misinterpreted what i said, but i accept everything about her religion i just dont accept converting and having my whole family being christians. and fyi i do celebrate xmas.


whats the trinity? or should i google that lol and yeah i do agree with the irony its such cruel irony though xD

Edited by RideMyPwny, 11 April 2009 - 08:49 PM.

[TheBase]

What's the trinity? It's the christian idea that there is only one god and three gods at the same time. Confused? Why don't you ask your girlfriend, a devout christian, to explain it even further. Start the conversation with this line: "hey baby girl, I'd like to talk about the trinity to further understand your religion. I do know that it's about having a god and three gods at the same time. But isn't that logically inconsistent? Can you explain to me how this works?" And go on from there. It will do wonders for the relationship!

[RideMyPwny]

lol sry i was temporarily confused yeah i have a small base knowledge about the trinity but i guess i'll take your advice on that. thnx!

[TheBase]

Yo man... I was being sarcastic...

[RideMyPwny]

o well thnx but i guess ill try it anyways

[Pwnstar]

Did you consider smoking weed every day?

[PwnDaddy123]

Learn to sing Awesome God by heart. Sing it to her. **** her. Then dump her.

No need to thank me for the advice.

Edited by PwnDaddy123, 11 April 2009 - 11:24 PM.

[some dude]

Did you consider smoking weed every day?

[T3hFurious1]

Tell her to accept that you don't want to convert or break up with her.

BTW, fuck religion.

Edited by T3hFurious1, 11 April 2009 - 11:43 PM.

[exterminator321]

Did you consider smoking weed every day?

Right on! Maybe he should smoke some pot.

Also I hope this chick gives good head cause like why else would you even THINK of changing something like a religion cause she thinks you're going to hell. Seriously you must really be crazy.... about her. If a chick asked me to convert to Christianity I'd be like "WTF? I don't believe in that shit woman! I know too much! It would be blasphemous if I didn't believe it and went to your church now wouldn't it?" And what can she say?

[TubularLuggage]

I'm Catholic, and my girlfriend of over 2 years isn't the least bit religious. There hasn't been a problem with that yet, and I don't foresee there being one. People are free to believe what they believe. I wouldn't want her to force herself to be religious, because it wouldn't be true to who she is, and her strongly defined sense of self is one of the things I love about her.

Basically, as long as both people in the relationship are sane about it, religious differences don't matter.

[RideMyPwny]

yeah like i mentioned before she is a bit hardcore about her religion. but whatever i'll just keep doin what i do in my life. thnx to some of u guys that actually gave advice

[way2lazy2care]

first, you should live together for at least 3 months before you propose. You need to know the little things like how she'll leave forks in the couch, or how you'll start to poop with the door open that aren't major, but dig under ur skin until she's standing over ur lifeless body with a blood covered brick wondering where she can find 10 gallons of bleach at 2 in the morning.

Anyways, if religion isn't a major thing to you, you might consider your beliefs. There are a lot of buddhist beliefs that in no way contradict catholocism that you could keep. I happen to be a very buddhist/toaist christian, and I know none of the stuff I believe in contradicts my catholic faith.

If religion isn't that important to you, then why are you making it such a big deal? It's obviously important to her, so you can either get her to be more understanding, stop making it a big deal, or just convert. Since you said yourself religion isn't a huge deal to you, it shouldn't be that bad.

[It's ME!]

Your 17 and shes 16. Theres still two more years until she graduates. And your young and kids always fight and things always happen. And your way too WAY TOO young to be discussing about having a family with her seriously. I mean jokingly yes...i even did that..but seriously no.

Personally i wouldn't make any commitments until you are SURE like 999999% SURE you will get married to her. Like when you get engaged or something. But other than that...wait and see what happens. I wouldn't want to make any MAJOR commitments like changing your religion because of a girl, unless you are going to be with that girl for sure.

Thats me two cents. To wait. Btw this is coming from a guy who has no religion. I just have beliefs.

Fixed.

Tell her to accept that you don't want to convert or break up with her.

BTW, fuck religion.

this man (or woman?) spoke my mind.