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Ever since the last few weeks of school last year my friend Zack has been my best friend since 5th grade. We hardly ever argued and we played tabletop RPGs and video games together frequently. Now he doesn't want to interact with me at all. His brother is still my friend, but he isn't.

Ever since last year he hasn't started a single conversation with me. This was very unlike him. According to his family he has been grumpy around the house lately, he also broke up with his long-time girlfriend not long ago for unspecified reasons. Whenever I bring anything up (usually music or anime, the two things that I'm really into at the moment), he just says how much it sucks without even really listening to me. The only reason this could be is that maybe he thinks that I am imposing my interests on him, but I'm not doing any more than simply having a conversation with my best friend.

He talks to my other friends (also his friends) quite frequently if my observations are correct. He blocked me on AIM and posted my AIM on /b/ as soon as he found out my username. This ended up being futile, all three of the trolls that attempted to spam me gave up.

So, my former best friend is being a douchebag. He won't speak with me and says that everything I like is stupid. He refuses to like music since "it's what everyone else likes". He's being a pretentious faggot.

I'd like to know what I should do if anything. He obviously doesn't want to talk to me. This is odd, since he's been my best friend for so long.

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Did you shoot his mom or something?


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QUOTE (Caelumeg @ Sep 14 2008, 02:46 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Did you shoot his mom or something?

I did absolutely nothing negative to him at all.

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Find a new friend if he ain't talking to you.
Don't cry over it, he obviously doesn't want to hang out with you anymore.

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Lol at 4chan..

Also, if he's being such a pretentious faggot. Punch the shit out of his face and tell him not to be such a fucking tool.

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Did you just enter highschool, do you talk about geeky stuff where ever you are despite the crowd around you.. are you the awkward kid?
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QUOTE (Bauglir @ Sep 14 2008, 08:48 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I did absolutely nothing negative to him at all.

/shrug. Stalk him and find out he's stressed over his problems in funding his severe drug addiction. Or maybe it's PMS. Or adolescence. How old is he?

Srsly tho, most reasonable thing I can think of is talking to him. Corner him if he's trying to avoid conversation.



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It seems to me that whatever lodged the cactus up his arse isn't your problem and you shouldn't try to remove it. You're still only young in regards to life - you're going to lose a shitload more friends then just him.

Think of it like this: For every one person who doesn't want to hang out with me - there is another potential 1,000. Eventually, you'll part ways at the end of high-school and you might move to continue with education or you could start working locally / not so locally.
The thing is you're going to meet more people. Eventually, he may decide to stop being such a cockstamp and try to apologize - and thats when you decide if he's worth your effort.

Hang around with your other friends, make new friends, keep doing what you're doing regardless with what anyone says about 'geek level'.
Eventually all those ball-tossing retards will drop out and you and your graduation peers will be tighter then roast chicken and Oprah.

tl;dr?
OP's former friend is clearly a cock and deserves to be all anti-social and lonely and shit. Mainly because he is infact, an emo anti-social dickhole. Moving on will make you the bigger man and by far, less stressed.

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Personally if that was me..i'd be more like the guy when i see...i'd pretty much bum rush him against a locker and fucking demand and explanation and if he cant give me one i am gonna light his ass on fire with the lighter in me pocket. And if that doesnt suffice! I'll stuff him in a locker and see how embarrassed he gets. And if that doesnt coax him!! I'll torture him until the truth comes out, and once it does!!!! I'd give him a great big hug and call him me "teddy bear."

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QUOTE (Tubby @ Sep 14 2008, 03:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
PS: If this 'anime' you speak of is something like Avatar or Naruto - you deserve the wrath of /b/tards. icon_wink.gif

No sir, shounen is shit. See my avatar and signature for good anime.

QUOTE (MCClammer @ Sep 14 2008, 03:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Did you just enter highschool, do you talk about geeky stuff where ever you are despite the crowd around you.. are you the awkward kid?

Yes, I am in my sophomore year in high school. I do talk about geeky stuff occasionally, I try to keep it on the down-low if I'm not around people who appreciate such things, though. I hardly consider myself awkward, but I might be.

QUOTE (Caelumeg @ Sep 14 2008, 03:07 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
/shrug. Stalk him and find out he's stressed over his problems in funding his severe drug addiction. Or maybe it's PMS. Or adolescence. How old is he?

Srsly tho, most reasonable thing I can think of is talking to him. Corner him if he's trying to avoid conversation.

He's 15, he'll be 16 in October. I talked to his brother and he said that he'll talk to him about it, this is my best option at the moment since he refuses to talk to me.

I'm just going to stop trying to be a friend to him, he obviously doesn't want to hang out with me any longer. The only reason I should take him back as a friend is if he decides to apologize and stop being a tool.

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QUOTE (Vepr @ Sep 14 2008, 03:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Personally if that was me..i'd be more like the guy when i see...i'd pretty much bum rush him against a locker and fucking demand and explanation and if he cant give me one i am gonna light his ass on fire with the lighter in me pocket. And if that doesnt suffice! I'll stuff him in a locker and see how embarrassed he gets. And if that doesnt coax him!! I'll torture him until the truth comes out, and once it does!!!! I'd give him a great big hug and call him me "teddy bear."

I really wish you had the habit of getting drunk and saying funny stuff on the forums instead of saying me in place of my all the time. Further, I wonder how many times that fucked you over in English class..

Also, at Baug, fuck him. It can be tough to just cut your losses and get on with it but that's what you have to do sometimes.
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QUOTE (Bauglir @ Sep 14 2008, 04:42 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
According to his family he has been grumpy around the house lately, he also broke up with his long-time girlfriend not long ago for unspecified reasons.


This kinda makes me think there might be something more to it, like he might be going through a bout of depression or something and is pushing away those closest to him and keeping only vague friends who aren't too close. Whatever it is though, it's his problem, he needs to sort himself out. If you know you haven't done anything to him, then don't be angry with him. He may just need time out to himself. But you know, if he ever comes up and starts talking to you again, listen to what he has to say. He might just have a damn good explanation as to why he shut himself off. Give him the benefit of the doubt for now, and be open to having a chat to him when he might be ready to.
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QUOTE (Bauglir @ Sep 14 2008, 07:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ever since last year he hasn't started a single conversation with me. This was very unlike him. According to his family he has been grumpy around the house lately, he also broke up with his long-time girlfriend not long ago for unspecified reasons.
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I'd like to know what I should do if anything. He obviously doesn't want to talk to me. This is odd, since he's been my best friend for so long.


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I'm tempted to suggest taking the hippy melonqueen route for now.
It doesn't look like he's being a good friend and talking to his bro was prolly the best thing (unless his brother is a bully then he'll just ask if you're having a gay relationship with him, then punch him - and he'll end up hating you more).

Part of me thinks you're being fucked around and should stand your ground - but part of good friendship is being a punchbag now and again; your friendship should cushion the blow to a point.
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I'd say some of my most heated arguments/fights have been with best friends, hell I'd say things I'd never say to the average plum; when you get close you can cut a lot deeper with words.

You say he split from his girl, that can be hell depending on how he takes it.
I'd recommend backing off since you spoke to his bro. He knows you give a damn, but if he's pushing you off - praps he needs space to reaffirm his priorities.

Friends and family come first.

Alternatively, ignore all of that and beat his ass for being lame enough to post anything on /b/ let alone your AIM.



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He is just Emoing about his ex GF. She might have blamed you as a reason she wanted to break up with him.
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1. go ask an explination

2. kick his ass

3. find new friends

4. post his stuff on /b/

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If you were talking to me about Spice and Wolf all the time I'd be ignoring you too tbh. Just go up to him and ask him what the fuck his deal is, use those words. Then if he is still being a dick, start putting anime stickers all over his locker.
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Happened to me once at like the start of high school year, we got into different high schools, he started hating me and got some of my old good friends to kind of hate me too, until like in one night he was dissing me on msn and shit and i told him "What the fuck man, you changed, what the fuck happened to you?" logged off and like 1 week later he called me on my phone in the middle of school asking me whats up and in my mind i was like what the fuck, but i just chatted to him and we became good friends again icon_razz.gif, so yeah best thing is ask him what the fucks up and if he walks away grab him and ask him again.



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